Yes, perhaps it is that way, that some of her personal stuff influenced her decision and thatīs why she wouldnīt give me another chance. I immediately felt when she wrote to me that she didnīt know how to continue that she was in a way a bit rigid or hostile.
In what way do you think counter-transference could have been a matter in this case?
As Iīve spent quite some time with this T and also got to know that I need long term therapy, that is more than just 10 or 15 times I donīt know at all how to be able to continue. With the T who left me I got most of the sessions during the three months paid by my insurance company but with a new T I have to pay all of it myself.
My T gave me a vague explanation and told me that I would be better off in another kind of therapy but most of the times I felt satisfied with the therapy with this T and thinks itīs now more about chemistry or the lack of it when it comes to solving conflicts.
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Originally Posted by SnakeCharmer
Paula, I've read all your posts about this sudden termination. In my opinion, your T has behaved in a way I find hard to understand. In most (but not all) cases, Ts usually are willing to discuss things like this and to continue therapy.
There could be many explanations for why your T acted the way she did. The simplest I can think of is that SHE has some sort of issues you don't know about. The issues could be related to her personality, her history, her physical health or even counter-transference.
But there's no way of knowing.
I hope you will find a new therapist. I know you've said you don't have the money, but if you had money to pay your ex-T, it's likely you can spend it on a new T.
I wish you the very best. What has happened to you is very hurtful, especially since your T won't explain. I don't know what happened, but my sense is that you're better off without her. She sounds like someone who has her own problems and does not know how to communicate well, especially if there is any conflict. I'm so sorry this happened to you.
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