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Old Nov 07, 2014, 05:32 PM
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Originally Posted by JoeS21 View Post
On almost any day, the majority of people I interact with are anywhere from decent to pleasant. What puzzles me is that the one rude or mean person out of a whole day of great people, is the one that I end up thinking about the most.

I don't understand why the one person who hurts my feelings*, is the one who I pay all the attention to in my thoughts. Does anyone relate to this or have a theory about what's going on?

*regardless of who it is
I can relate.

It's the strong emotional content of the initial event that makes the person who hurt you come back into your mind. When you're depressed, you have subconsciously stopped deciding what to think and feel and the person who hurt you comes into your mind again and again and again and again and again and you are unable to control it. The bigger the hurt, the more it happens. That's very likely how PTSD works.

- v
Thanks for this!
JoeS21