Hellboy, I would hope that that's not a true statement. Dealing with csa is a sensitive matter, one to be touched upon in time where there is a stable relationship with trust and comfort. If some therapist asked me this on intake, I would be livid.

However, I'm so glad that you asked this question because I would love to get some insight as to how this is accepted and discussed with therapists.

When I told my therapist, it was via letter. I had her read it while I left the room. She came out after what felt like hours and asked me to come back into the room with her. I was a mess, shaking and crying; I didn't want to go back in with her. I finally did and she looked a little disheveled herself as though she might have teared up, her hair was pushed up funny on one side like she had run her hands through it and forgotten to smooth it back down. She tried to talk to me in a very quiet, sweet, soothing voice, but since that was something my abusers did I found it very triggering and ended up needing to leave. We talked later on that evening as I was a wreck, and was still very sweet and kind and grateful that I had felt comfortable enough to tell her in the first place.

As we talk about it now she will sometimes tear up and once she had a hard time taking to me because she was chocked up about something I had disclosed. Though I feel comfortable with her, I worry a lot about keeping her safe. I hate seeing her cry and really hate the thought of her being upset by me. I so so so worry about having to tell her details, I just feel like this will completely kill both of usand I'm not ready for that in the slightest.