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Originally Posted by jean17
Dearest Jeremiahgirl, sadly it is true. We just don't fit in. Often I will feel worse after being with my family than with other people because not only will I feel like I don't fit in with them, but I feel guilty for feeling that way. Bet you do too.
Why we are so distrustful of people I don't know.
It all makes life so hard. We want so much what our personality and mental health issues just won't allow us to have. 
I'm doing DBT and it is helping me a bit. I'm not so good at learning the new skills (You really have to give yourself lots of time to do this) but, I am recognizing a lot of things about myself and that is helpful.
I hope you get a good therapist to help you with all this.  |
Dear Jean17, I identify with a lot you've said. I also noticed that yes, at times I like being with my immediate family here (my twin and her family) yet I often feel so very lonely when I get home. Sometimes it feels like a "push and pull" I want to be there then I dont. Grrr it just makes me angry because I don't know why I feel that way. Years a go I was learning DBT Skills when I was in a partial hospital with other clients. Then it was all good and dandy but when I look at the skills now I get "enraged!" I think "why should I learn these skills let those who abused and hurt me learn them!!! Once again, I feel it's a sense of "submission" which for me is "sexual abuse." I get tired of me being the one to change, and other perverts go free hurting others. Yet, I hear my therapist saying "your the only one who can heal you!" (I am a praying person so God helps too! ) but the ball always bounces back to me and I'm just really TIRED OF IT!! At one point I was ready for healing but right now I guess I'm not, God has to help me. I know the value of DBT and just....it's a lot of WORK!
Thanks Jean17
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