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Originally Posted by Brown Owl
My T says things that I similarly don't always agree with, I was angry at the start about it, and perhaps unable to say how I felt. Now I am able to discuss these with her, I'll say things like, 'I'm not sure I see it like that' or 'I don't understand why you are thinking that' and give my views. I've stopped being angry and have started to value the things she says, I see it as her trying things out, she doesn't have to get it right and what she says is always thought provoking and leads to discussion, maybe it's her way of exploring things more deeply and getting me to explain things to her more.
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I think this here is really key, whether they'll hear you out if you correct them or say, "Well, it's more like this..." No one's right about people all the time and it's okay to not always agree, but if they listen to you and respect you as the expert on your own life and experiences, then you could have a discussion about it that might lead somewhere fruitful. If they act like they're infallibly insightful about what's going on in your mind and any disagreement from you must be "resistance" or unwillingness "see the truth" or something along those lines, then I'd move on. I got enough of that crap from my dad growing up; I don't need it from a therapist.
My own T seems quite smart about people, but if she has a theory about something she still checks with me and listens to what I have to say. I think that's part of what
makes one smart about people. If you don't hear people out, it's hard to learn anything about them, no matter how intelligent you may be.
So I think it depends on whether you can talk to them about it. Have you ever spoken up when you felt he was off-base? Is that difficult to do? How does he react?