It is crucial for a T to set boundaries when it comes to out of session contact and they also need to communicate these boundaries to their clients. No matter how great they are or how much they want to be there for their clients, it is very exhausting to be there 100% of the times with unlimited positive regard to everyone they see.

I believe if a T encourages email/text/phone calls to their clients then they should be expected to respond to the client. But as a client I don't think it is fair of us to expect a long, though-out, emotional response. Communication via email is tough. Miscommunication can be a huge problem. A T may take something you said wrong and instead of responding in a way that they believe is of benefit to you, it may actually trigger you. I know that is something that my T worries about with me although I do not reach out to her outside of session even though she wants me to but that's a whole separate issue :roll eyes: haha

So I believe it is best to try to keep deep and emotional conversation with your T to in person only. Plus it will be much more emotionally rewarding for you! If it is something you can't tell your T in person then I would write a letter or send her an email but wait to discuss it in your next session. It is important for your T to have boundaries but it is also important for you to understand them and also have boundaries of your own. It will save you a lot of emotional distress in the long run