I understand. My parents have either outright abused me or ignored me. (I've been playing mother to my own mother for as long as I can remember.)

I have personally chosen a life alone not because I don't think I can find anyone but because it is safer. I won't hurt anymore even if there are good things at the end. I am weak but for the stronger out there, willing to brave the big bad world I feel there can be much good.

There are many people with BPD who have found loving fulfilling lives and you can be one.

I would have no problem associating with anyone with BPD or any other MI- as long as they were working on their issues. Wallowing gets you nowhere. Nor does projecting your own self worth issues onto others.