I am not trying to "hurt" anyone's feelings. I am trying to be honest. I have this dx for many years. Seen a lot of hurt and pain.
People with BPD have to make the decision to "be alone". Look at Marsha L herself she never had a meaningful relationship and never got married. I think if you are lucky to have biological people in your life you are lucky. My statements are about strangers who come into each other's life because they have something to offer and they can have a normal relationship. When people enter our lives they have to make sure "we are working on our issues" that is offensive. Do we put a badge on our chest that states we are in therapy??? People don't start relationships with people they know are hard work - they just move on. I know what I am saying is hard to hear believe I would give the world if it is not true. Look at the divorce rate with people with BPD. I don't even know if P. Girl is still reading and knew it would take off but to be real this is a major issue. Now if you are young and get DBT early this will not be an issue they will get help early enough to turn this around for good. They are the lucky ones.