`Don't beat yourself up too much for the jerk in the bar. Many trained women have frozen in similar situations. Your fear/shock does not make you responsible for his disgusting behavior.

I think living with someone screaming and slamming doors probably keeps you in the mindset ~once you are triggered. It must be hard to escape the fear in your mind when you are dealing with abrasive behaviors in reality.

Take care geis~ hope you feel better soon.