Personally, I think men and women can just be friends. I have had several relationships with the opposite sex that were PURELY platonic, however, I do believe that they are a rare occurrence in most peoples' lives.

I suspect that this guy may have thought there was more to this relationship than there actually was, on one side or the other. Or, maybe, he was worried about the impression other's were getting from your being friends. People often like to impress their own view of things onto a situation, especially in the workplace.

Is he married? Are you? If either of you are, did your respective spouses know of this friendship?

My bf knows of my relationship with my male friend. He has met him many times and knows about the conversations we have - it's all about our "insanities" - something he is not really interested in discussing continually, like we do.

We have both talked about our mutual non-attraction to each other, too, which I believe makes a big difference in our ability to maintain a platonic relationship. Both know that there is no chance of this relationship veering off in that direction. It's really rather comforting to know this - for me anyway.

In your case, the suspicious side of me thinks he had something to hide, and it now sounds like whatever he hid, has now been revealed.

AS