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With my x-T I learned, by accident, that standing up while he was sitting helped me talk from a less frightened, vulnerable place and was able to converse easier. He even said perhaps we should do more sessions this way. He was a T that did not connect with me and I always felt aggregated and triggered by him. He also had tight tight boundaries that I felt insulted by.
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When a child’s emotional needs are not met and a child is repeatedly hurt and abused, this deeply and profoundly affects the child’s development. Wanting those unmet childhood needs in adulthood. Looking for safety, protection, being cherished and loved can often be normal unmet needs in childhood, and the survivor searches for these in other adults. This can be where survivors search for mother and father figures. Transference issues in counseling can occur and this is normal for childhood abuse survivors.
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