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Originally Posted by Rose3
Maybe it would be helpful for you to plan for your privacy. If you don't really want to go out with them - then have some of your own plans in place. Why are you being kicked out of bed and then sleeping on the couch? That sounds awkward. I agree with your setting boundaries. If you do not want to spend your weekend with this child - then don't feel guilty. Look forward to the time when your boyfriend will have a car.
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I try to do that as it is. I've set boundaries such as "I will take you to x and y on saturday, and doing my own thing on sunday." That only works so well, because the son is so hyperactive and my boyfriend seems to feel that if they are not out and about he isn't being any fun... he will take him somewhere in a cab, and then message me expecting me to drop everything and pick them up from whatever location they've gotten themselves to because he has spent all his money buying his son fun things. And then so it goes.... I am going to try to get away next weekend to visit my sister. I will let my boyfriend know ahead of time when his anxiety isn't triggered and tell him to prepare fun things for home etc. I guess we will see how that works.