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Originally Posted by Slamjammer
Sounds like your BF is trying to be a good dad, as best he knows how. That's a good thing. On the other hand, the kid sounds like a hyperactive 9yr old with discipline issues.
I've been there, except the kid was a poorly behaved girl.
Talk to your BF about it, addressing the hyperactivity and need for rules. He is the one who must impose the rules with his son, otherwise you become the bad guy. Once rules are established, you can help enforce them by reminding the kid of the rules, if the need arises. This won't make you very popular with him, but it's better than being the wicked witch. Also, the kid may need some medication...obviously an issue for your BF to discuss with his ex...but you may want to bring it up.
In any event, good luck. I know it ain't easy ;-)
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I've tried to talk with my boyfriend about it in the least accusing way, but usually he just looks at me like I have two heads and just says "He's just a kid! What do you expect?!" Which really irks me. Generally my boyfriend is very good at understanding my concerns, but I become the bad guy if I express concerns about his son's behavior. His son is very well behaved towards him, and he seems to have blinders on about his behavior towards me. For example, after being told I was sleeping on the couch, I woke up to his son shaking me awake at 5am. When I opened my eyes, his son simply used his thumb to "boot" me off the couch because he wanted to sit there and play games on the computer. To me this is extremely rude. I don't mind moving back to the bed, but to have a nine year old give me the "boot thumb" at 5am is just rude. When I was his age, I definitely would have said "Hey, will you move to the bedroom please? I want to sit here and play for a while." When I told my boyfriend about this, he just laughed and thought it was funny. What the hell?