I have had a couple of Ts whose judgment I did not trust particularly. I mean, in general I think they were smart, highly-educated people with sound opinions, but they did not understand me, and in the therapy situation that is kind of a deal breaker.
I do trust my current T's judgment. During my first couple of visits, before I saw him for therapy, he made some observations that made me feel understood, validated, and seen, in a way that my then-T had never managed to do. And that's interesting since I did not expect him, at that point, to be my therapist!
That is not to say that he is always right, but he is never arrogant and he doesn't presume to know more about who I am than I do myself. When he is wrong I tell him so.
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