Hi rukspc. You seem to be in a similar spot as hours. A lot of people are. The guy you describe doesn't sound all that nice. (Neither did hours' guy to me.) Do you really think these guys have transformed into great catches, loving, caring, never being hurtful. If you've been with a guy for a year or more, you know who he is. He takes that with him into the next relationship.

No, nothing is as picture perfect as it looks from the outside. Sometimes it's interesting to keep tabs on how the one who got away is doing. You eventually find that he has problems, like everyone does. Often, the new relationship doesn't last forever either. Not that you want to know that just to be glad. Neither of you sound spiteful. But it shows you, realistically, that these guys may have some problems making relationships work, just as they did with the two of you.

For hours to go to the reunion might be a good idea. It's your high school reunion and you have as much right to be there as anyone else. Just don't make encountering this guy your main focus. If you see him, fine. Don't give him an opening to be hurtful to you with stuff like, "I'm not doing this again." That wasn't nice or necessary. Your main problem is that you are not in a successful relationship right now, and it's what anyone your age tends to want. So get circulating. Be friendly to anyone you meet at the high school reunion, male or female. You never know who might be able to introduce you to someone worth knowing.