I honestly have no clue...


You are willingly getting mixed up in the drama of their toxic relationship, so its to be expected that the toxicity will infect you too.


I'm really not sure how to continue on this path while protecting your emotional and mental wellbeing.


I have a friend much like yours, I too can't stand her bf at all. We're still super (sister) close and I love her to bits, but I had to set a strict boundary where her toxic relationship is concerned.


I told her she willingly chose to stay in that relationship, accepted his ******** open eyes, so she has lost the right to complain about it to me. I explained to her that I was starting to lose my respect for her and starting to resent having to pick up her pieces after each fall out with her bf.


I told her that the only way I could preserve our friendship was to set up a "no moaning about bf" rule... Either that or we end the friendship amicably while I still have respect left for her....


This happened about a year ago, she has respected my boundary and our friendship is as strong as ever.


This does not seem like an option you are open to though. You've stated that you want to remain supportive of this bad relationship because she's already lost so many friends due to its toxicity levels.


So while I don't have a clue how you're going to keep yourself emotionally safe from this, besides seeing a therapist (I don't recommend seeking out therapy to deal with someone else's relationship woes) I did think it may be helpful to share my story so that you know someone here understands....