I came here before I started therapy to learn more... really, all I learned is that every experience is different, and that is true. I have been seeing my T for about 6 months now, and I will say that because of this forum, I went into therapy with some preconceived notions that were untrue....again, because everyone is different. But coming here also gave me ideas on questions to ask her when I was getting started. I knew I should ask about boundaries, for example, but for some reason it was hard to outright ask, so I've learned as I've gone along. I'm still learning. Really, my T doesn't have a standard list of boundaries. She has boundaries depending on the client. She hugs me. She'll sit beside me and hold me. But she won't do that with everyone, because she thinks some may benefit from that kind of care, where others it could do damage. We were just talking about some boundaries last week, and I told her I probably should have asked in the beginning, and she said I never would have believed her until now. She will share personal information/stories about herself, because she got a read on me from the beginning (which I find interesting, as I've never really thought about it) that I was the type of person who was going to need to know her in order to open up and trust her. To demonstrate to me that she is just another person, not this intimidating psychologist. So although many T's don't talk about themselves, she saw something about me that told her she was going to have to share a bit of herself in my sessions, or I wasn't going to believe a word she said. She must have done something right, because I have full trust in her.