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Originally Posted by ScarletPimpernel
I do have contact with an ex-T. I'm allowed to email her once a year. I haven't seen her in 9 years now.
My emails consist mostly of the positives and/or major events during the year. I do not seek out help or support. And I don't expect a fast reply (it can take her over a month).
Her reply consists of her encouraging me a little, an update about her job, and an update about her family and/or what she's been doing. That's all. Maybe 2 paragraphs.
It's not much, but to me, it means that she didn't abandon me, that she's still there, and she's still a part of my life. That means so much to me.
After 9 years, I'm questioning what's the point. But I can't let go. I need to know she's still there...even if it is only once a year.
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I can imagine that I will feel the same way... knowing that nothing more will ever come of the relationship than an email once or twice a year, but not being able to stop writing. The only way that I would stop is if it seemed like she wasn't interested in hearing from me. It does mean a lot, and I'm thankful that I am even allowed to email my T. I know what you mean-- it feels like confirmation that she's still out there and remembers me.
I can't imagine my T encouraging me about something though, because she would probably see that as no longer her place.