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Old Nov 09, 2014, 11:32 PM
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Originally Posted by guilloche View Post
How long have you known your T? What's your sense of her?

I think if I had a long, successful relationship with a T, and felt fairly confident that they were a decent human, I wouldn't let the stuff about the treatment facility get to me. I'd give her the benefit of the doubt that she wasn't involved in any bad things going on, and probably didn't know about them.

Did you know she was working there before, or did you only find out because she recently left? I'd almost think it would be worse if she were still working there, no?

*good luck*
Um I have known her for eight months. The relationship has been fairly solid, but she has been really kind of over sharey about her stress level and she mentioned things casually about restraining people at this place, and while I don't doubt her general good intentions, and her general dedication to her work, I have been having a hard time getting the sense that she is able to verbalize her feelings of compassion and care towards me.

I didn't find the google reviews until to day. I was writing to her about some of my feelings, and then I started to think about how much I hated the fact that she had worked at this place, and then I decided to look it up, and I found the stuff and felt sick.

The other thing that is hard for me is that I want in the future to purse graduate level research that critiques places like this, and tries to share the stories of survivors.

I'm worried about compassion fatigue with my T, and seeing that she worked here just really put another check in that column.

I'm glad that she left, but I really hate to think how the culture of somewhere like that might influence the way that they see their clients.
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Thanks for this!
guilloche