Good food for thought Hamster. And you are right about communication courses. They usually aren't long enough and try to teach a formula for people to start off with but then the course is over before moving onto how can we put that more naturally. Terms tend to go for 8 weeks and perhaps there's not enough interest for organisations who run these courses to do an advanced one to address these issues.
Of course I've tried many differenr ways of dealing with issues in my relationship. I have just launched in to the we never go out anymore but have made suggestions. Asked him what he'd like to do, suggest activities and so forth before "communicating" about it. Plai. English suggestions would be gratefully accepted.
I was concerned about raising the time out issue as if we were able to talk and agree on that then we wouldn't have the issues we have. And yes healing I am dealing with excuses and I don't feel that how skilled or how down to earth I am when talking with my sorter thst it will work.
But unfortunately relationship counseling where I live is either focussed on communication or psych therapy style endless rehashing of family dynamics with few to now strategies taught especially what to do when talking doesn't work. The material given to me as more for men/those who want to manage their anger so they don't take their anger out in the other person but instead have strategies to maanage it. So it's isually the angry person that talks to their partner about time out and how they are going to do this. The recipient of the anger needs other state gives. It's a shame that the next session isn't for 5 weeks or so as I would go back and say that I don't think I could find a successful way of doing this.