Are you aware that therapists often say its those with "wonderful" childhoods who are the most messed up? I have no doubt why...

I honestly don't see this as neglect. Maybe I've read one too many stories about real neglect to see it here, and I don't believe in telling people something exists when I honestly don't believe it to be true.

Your mom not encouraging you to see a guy isn't really emotional neglect. How do you know your mom wasn't having a bad day? Ok, so along with other things, you say, but this is the pivotal point in your argument. So no, not emotional neglect.

Not everyone is huggy/huggy, but that doesn't mean they are emotionally neglectful. Your mom may be more of the hands off type person and you may need a few more hugs, but please don't label it as emotional neglect!