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Originally Posted by feralkittymom
I think there's a difference between trusting and trying to force a commitment because of fears of abandonment. That would seem to me to be more about control. True trust, for me, would be perhaps more akin to faith that the T would always put their obligation and responsibility to me first. That does not mean that the future is guaranteed, nor that external circumstances cannot change. I would put my trust in the moments we were working together, and if the T were worthy of my trust, have faith that the process will unfold in my best interests.
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You bring up a good point... maybe it is about control.. maybe not... I just never even thought about it being an issue until she brought it up a few months ago... I was living in the moment and was trusting and having faith...... but she is the one who brought it up not me... so I am not certain what kind of head game she is playing.. but that is what therapists do... I should have known better than to even begin the trust thing again......
I have never had issues with abandonment.. until she brought up a few months ago that she wasn't certain she could help me, when I had invested a year into trusting her.. and then I finally start to trust her and we finally start getting work done... believe me, I know that nothing is guaranteed, her work partner was killed in a accident this past summer... At this point I really don't think I am going back, or if I do, it will be to read her what she wrote in her introduction about herself.... and tell her she is full of sh**