Wow. I'm sorry, there were a bunch of replies that I didn't see before I wrote to you last night. I agree... what a tough, awful situation. I think you're going to have to go with your gut... you could always try interviewing new Ts on the side, if you're not 100% sure you want to leave, to see if there's someone else that you get a "Yes! Much better!" feeling from... but it sounds like there are already some inklings of problems with her, and that finding this out is just adding on to that?