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Originally Posted by hvert
I'm finding that I have the same (lousy) behaviors, but now I am telling myself that I 'decide' to do them. I still need to figure out how to push myself over the edge into healthy decisions.
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hi hvert,
I think that when you're starting out, it's best to make lots of tiny tiny decisions like the ones in #4 of this thread. When I put my socks on, for instance, I usually decide whether to put my left sock on first or my right sock on. If I go up a flight of stairs, sometimes I go two at a time, sometimes left foot first, sometimes right foot first (and if I'm in the mood, I will hop up the stairs like a bunny
). It's not that these are good or bad decisions, it's just that I actively decide (SNAP!) and I actively ENJOY deciding. Many many good things came for me later, but this is how I started out.
I suspect that many good things are coming for you too
and I suspect that you will decide not to do your lousy behaviors naturally as you go.
I find that snap club has something to do with meditation and present moment awareness. In Buddhist monasteries, they sometime have a "bell of mindfulness" that rings occasionally throughout the day to remind you to be in the present moment. I find that my SNAPs do that for me. When I SNAP and decide, I am conscious and truly alive at that moment. Sure, I might make a mistake, but I'm OK with that. I feel safe. I feel like if I am present with my full self, things will work out.
- vital