Thank you for your posting.

BP certainly has an impact on those we love.

My advice would be that your wife finds a job first in the state that you are referring to and then you all move together.

Starting your own business comes with massive risks. 70% of small businesses fail within the first year of start up due to a number of factors. You don't want to move all the way there and your wife takes a while to find a stable income.

Be well and I hope that ultimately the decision that you make is the one that is best for you and your family.