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Originally Posted by Abby
I'm bad with change and endings and basically therapy!
My main questions are purely simple things like - do I have to say I've arrived? How will you greet me? Can I not pay at the front desk? None of those things I did before on agreement with my previous therapist because I found receptionists changed and I didn't like saying my name out loud or being in too close contact to them. I know that sounds wierd but I get anxious easily and I prefer to slip in and out without anyone knowing, if I can. A response may help me but what if I ask too much and she thinks it is all a bit lame? Besides I have no idea what I feel right now and wonder if asking questions gives her power etc. I over think don't I?!
I'm sad all the time so I hope this eases the stress and doesn't add to it. Very nervous!
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Hi Abby!
Wow, I can really relate to this a lot. I'm terrible at therapy too, and change, and endings
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I think your questions are very reasonable, they are very logistics-oriented, so I can't imagine a T would have trouble with them.
Is this T at the same location as previous T?
Asking these questions does NOT give her all the power. It gives YOU power by speaking up for needs, making your needs known, and getting information that you need to be safe and comfortable! All good things!
And, they're not lame at all! Just an objective view, I don't see how she'd consider them lame.
Good luck! I hope you're able to ask, and maybe able to let her know in the email your preferences too... (so instead of just, "Do I have to do this...?" I'd say, "I prefer to not do this... but do this instead. This makes me uncomfortable, and I really preferred this other way that old T let me do.")
Good luck!