I get what you're saying. To a Pdoc apparently everything is psychological. That's their specialty so see psych issues behind a lot of things. I also think it was quite disrespectful of him to cut you off, to not hear you out. That reason alone is enough for me to not want to hear what he has to say because frankly does not seem like he would want to hear what you the client have to say in the first place!

I was only reacting to what I felt was disregard of expert opinion only because of his gender. I hope it did not come across as me invalidating your experience. You reaction to this makes sense to me.

I have not read through the whole thread but I don't know if you're in a position to get multiple opinions on this (not just psych but maybe even other surgeons or doctors). At the end of the day it's your body but just to make sure you are getting into this with all the information available to you. Just a thought.