Thanks Hamster-Bamster. It really is so tough, with him acting as if I caused a world of pain for him, when it was reverse. I go out of my way to avoid him - I take all sorts of detours just so that I won't see him. I am even scared that if he sees me smile, he'll do something just to ruin it. Now he keeps badgering me asking for his cards (which I tossed out long back and he knows). Threatening to come to my house and yell at my folks, and to ruin my married life etc. I am ignoring it all. My friends are my confidantes in this, and they ask me to be strong. But it is just so hard to keep it together sometimes. What did I do to him I tried andt tried to make it okay. In the end, nothing worked. Even my folks tried to please his folks. But his folks opposed everything strongly, and lied to him that they were okay but we weren't. It sucks that we didn't harm anyone but, I am forced to endure this pain everyday.