((geis)),

I do hear what you are saying. It's hard to know exactly where someone is tbh. People are reaching out from all different places too and what is available to them varies depending on where they live.

I grew up seeing my parents making efforts to help others, even when they struggled themselves with three children. My parents helped a neighbor when no one would help him, that took a lot of their time as this person became more and more dependent. So, there "are" good people out there. I myself sought help and I did not get the right kind of help either, how I found my T is by word of mouth from my husband meeting different people in the basement of churches in AA meetings. All kinds of people go to those meetings from all walks of life. My husband has helped others get their lives back on track, even got them jobs and helped them find places to live too. Many of these individuals are not "just" alcoholics, they have other problems that challenged them where they ended up going down the wrong road.

What I am saying is often just depending on the system itself just doesn't work, however, there are people out there that network and help each other. Like I said, THE SYSTEM would have never helped me find my T that has been so amazing and helpful to me. I was in really bad shape geis, and got very suicidal too. And the "system" just did not help me, instead only made me worse tbh. And honestly, people "in" the system themselves break down and I have learned much from how we have managed to meet these individuals outside the system itself in the basements of churches.

Also, I have met people that form their own support groups because of how bad the system is, for example people that are challenged with autistic children that group together "on their own" and support each other. There are support groups for victims of rape/abuse too that form on their own as well.

The system tends to be so overloaded, as you have noticed yourself, that there is a real lack of personal attention, well, people end up forming support groups because of this problem all the time.

OE