pink, I'm sorry you had such a tough session, but I think it sounds very productive and challenging also. You must have such incredible trust for your therapist that you are able to be so angry with him in session. Kudos to you for achieving that.

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Then I talked about masochistic behavior-- McWilliams says that those who self-injure are doing so because they only learned to get love and comfort when they were suffering.... Attention when they were sick and such...

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This is interesting to me as I am a former cutter, and this explanation does not resonate with me at all. SI never got me any attention because I never told anyone about it or showed them my cuts. I kept it all hidden and secret. I didn't do it to get comfort from others at all. I did it to release the emotional pain inside of me. I think McWilliams is making quite a blanket statement, and that there are multiple "benefits" people can derive from SI.

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I rolled my eyes. For the 1st time, he sounded like he was reading empathy statements off of a list or something...

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I can tell that must have hurt and sounded very fake. (((hugs)))

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i read something once about how the moments in therapy that are striking to the therapist are often quite different from the moments in therapy that are striking to the client. the therapist tends to think the most significant moments are when they make some insight they are all proud of. the client tends to think the most significant moment is when they got some sense of emotional connection. sometimes therapists don't know precisely what they do that we get so much out of...

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alex, I wrote that here a couple of weeks ago. I find it fascinating.