Withit, It does seem to be all about feeling that we are worth of pleasure, worthy of other peoples kindness. I know I hate to take anything, I'm afraid they will snatch it back? or insult me for having got pleasure from something. I'm not worthy comes to mind.

I know for me it stems from my adoptive mother, she would give with one hand but then make sure that emotionally she took it back. Everything she done she did for her. Even in adopting me she would tell me what a good deed she had done to have "taken me on" I guess thats how I struggle with taking today.