Oh I think and hope we are in therapy most of the week working things through and that is partially what we are doing here and there are many ways that we can keep that going. McWilliams can certainly be one of those ways. I can see this both ways and do bring things in to the milieu from time to time so this may be the same. Though in this case it seems to be an overwhelming presence... but I will give it more thought. We all need to find what works for each of us....