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Originally Posted by Jan1212
I definitely don't want to be a stalker, am I or would this be considered creepy? Sometimes it feels so weird but I m so curious where they are right now in their lives. But I search them a few times a month, it is excessive and not to keep contact either. It started when I was dating this person, then I searched and found his facebook etc. and also my ex's GF friended me, she had a pic of her and my exBF. and I searched her and found her on twitter, and my ex's blog. I keep revisiting it to read, they are happy. The sites are public. Then I searched my husbands friends and ex, who's in marketing and is always on tv shows anyway so she's public.
I searched myself and I can find my older blogs, everything I do is private now. Does anyone else search people, or is this really odd?
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I think that everyone does it. I do. Just not as frequently. Clearly the information is public, you are not creepy, and you are not on your way towards stalking anyone. You are simply doing a completely normal activity a tad too often.
I am thinking that when you discard the notions of creepiness and stalking, your frequency of googling folks would go down automatically, without conscious interventions. Another idea for you (this is great tip re googling yourself to catch identify theft) is to CALENDAR googling yourself and others once a month. By putting it on your calendar you would acknowledge that the activity is normal and even helpful (in the case of googling yourself). Then there would be no forbidden fruit (currently, by thinking that you are overdoing it, you are forbidding yourself this activity in a subconscious sort of way, which may raise its appeal for you) and everything would be out in the open and just business as usual.
Thanks for opening the thread - I am sure I am not the only person to learn about identify theft prevention from your thread.