Thank you all for the warm welcome here.

Nicole, thank you so so much for the advice and information. I can't get the book you mentioned (he will know if I order it, and I can only get into town WITH him and he sees everything I put in the cart) but I will research it and see if I can find similar articles on what she has written.
I was also surprised to see you suggest I keep a journal. I've actually been keeping one online for a little over a year now. I started one four years ago on him but felt it was unfair to him and deleted it. But because things have never improved and even gotten worse, I felt that he didn't deserve fair anymore (he obviously doesn't think I deserve fair after all) and started a new one. It is basically just a record or things he does and says so that I have it if I need it for when I leave and/or for a lawyer .

I do have one question though - if anyone knows. In regards to sociopathic behavior. Why are they like that?? I read it was genetic in some articles, and as a result of environmental factors in others, and some say a combinations of both. Actually, his mother is 20x worse than him ... she's absolutely horrible!! But I don't get what the pay off is for people like this. It may work for them short term to get what they want, but they destroy and lose everyone in their lives eventually. Do they not "get that"? And to not feel any emotion, and not be able to feel empathy ... do they not realize that something is very wrong with them?? They seem able to mimic others experiencing emotion ... don't they want to ACTUALLY experience it?
And trying to drive someone crazy seems so unbelievably malicious and cruel ... I can't imagine doing that to someone. It is beyond unreasonable.

But as for calling a shelter or a hotline, I'm afraid to because I know they will tell me to leave, and I my reality is that I just can't right now. I know no one will understand this, my little dog is my everything. She is basically my little child and I love her that much - and like most women would never leave their child, I refuse to leave mine. If she can't come with me, then I stay put until she can.
I know THAT might cause a lot of negative comments.
My little dog loves her home and her wonderful yard. She gets wonderful food and any and all her vet costs taken care of (she is special needs). And she actually loves him. (and he seems to love her - which confuses me - I thought they don't "love" but he seems to really care deeply for her)

That is not to say that when I AM financially able to leave, and have a secure plan and place to go that will suit her needs, I will absolutely leave. But until then, I must stay here. And to stay here, I must keep the peace. And unfortunately, that means letting him say and do whatever he wants and not make waves.

But thank you all for your kindness.

(Nicole, we are neighbors - I'm actually in Essex Ontario - small world)