Thanks everyone! The meeting didn't go horribly but I'm sure it could have been better. Several concessions were made for me to excuse her absences after their 10-day deadline, we came up with some cumulative rewards she can earn by going to school every day (her favorite one is getting to spend 20 minutes on Fridays playing games on the guidance counselor's iPad) and she got a stern talking to by the discipline officer, which helped reinforce that this is not my rule, just my job to enforce it.

She is not on an IEP but I have requested the evaluation and they have a deadline of this Friday to respond.

She has been doing fantastic since, but it's early days yet. I am so worn out from battling with this kid every single day of her life, multiple times a day, anytime I have to enforce a boundary. Thanks for listening!