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Originally Posted by Partless
I think you're being a little harsh on scorpiosis37, and instead of sympathizing with her challenges she faces, you seem to be judging her for feeling the way she does, even now after she has explained herself. I did not read her original comment as telling other women what they should or should not do, but you seem to have taken it personally and as a result, reacting judgmentally as if she had attacked your views of yourself or women.
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Thank-you, Partless. I really appreciate the support. I wrote my post in an attempt to empathize with the OP by sharing my story and that of my cousins who had the surgery. I was hoping it would help the OP to hear that both of my cousins had the surgery when they were approximately the same age as the OP. They chose to have it early on-- before having kids-- because they wanted to stop the discomfort/back problems ASAP and enjoy their bodies when they were young.
I do not think that my language was difficult to understand in the context of my post (I bolded the part where I make it clear that I'm talking about myself and the women in my family). I was not talking about anyone else's body; I was talking about the struggle myself and my cousins went through deciding whether or not to have surgery. But, if my language was misinterpreted, I certainly want to clear that up. I do not support sexism or judging women based off their appearances/chests. I was simply trying to empathize with women, like the OP, who have also faced challenges because of our breasts.
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Originally Posted by scorpiosis37
Two of my cousins (a pair of sisters) both had breast reductions in their late teens. They were both a 34DD and had serious back issues. The younger one had scoliosis as well which exacerbated the issue. The doctor said that if their breasts had been that large because they were overweight-- and there was something they could do about it naturally through diet and exercise--- he would not have wanted to operate. But they were thin-- maybe 120 lbs-- so there simply wasn't any weight to lose. The women in our family simply have large breasts which are disproportionate to our body size. So they both had reductions and it has made a significant, positive impact on their lives. If I were any bigger than I am, I would do it also. But I'm slightly smaller than they were-- a 34D-- so I've simply learned to live with them. The size itself isn't what is so large-- it's the size on our bodies. When you're only a size 4/6 in clothes, having D or DD breasts is disproportionate. It can not only cause back pain but restrict activity, make it difficult to buy shirts/jackets, and attract unwanted attention-- especially in professional settings when you want to be taken seriously by colleagues. I think the only issue to consider would be whether the pain/restriction is solely coming from the large breasts, or whether there is a whole body weight issue. If there is a larger weight issue, a breast reduction may not solve the problem. But if a doctor has evaluated the situation and said that a breast reduction will solve the back pain and other issues, then it seems like a good option. I would put no stock in what a male P-doc is saying; sounds rude, sexist, and ignorant to me.
Interesting fact: I looked up how much a pair of 40DD breasts weigh, simply because I was curious, and they only weigh 6lbs! My 34Ds apparently only weigh 4lbs. That seems crazy. It seems like more.
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