I recently graduated from college and moved back home. I have an awful and broken trust relationship with my parents right now because of a series of events. I was dating someone I met online that my parents highly disapproved of because of his financial standing and educational background. They tried to force me to stop talking to him. When I was stubborn and did not want to obey, they reminded me that I am still not completely financially independent (student loans). As a temporary solution, I pretended I had broken up with him, but secretly talked to him through other means. Later, my parents pulled up my phone records, they violated my privacy by going onto my computer and reading our conversations, and forced me to call him while they were watching to break up with him against my will.

I don't want to hurt or destroy my family. My dad keeps telling me that my mistakes are causing him to hurt a lot. But at the same time, I have just lost my biggest supporter. Whenever I wake up at night, he was the person who would talk to me and stay on the line until I fell back asleep. He knew I was suffering from depression and that living at home was causing me to wilt. He always encouraged me to become more independent and assertive. Tell your parents what you want, and act on it!

I want to move out, but don't know how to bring this up to my parents since they really don't trust me out of their sight. They always need to know where I am, what I am doing, who I am with, when I will be back, etc. I have no space to breathe. It's because they're scared I'm going to go see my now ex-boyfriend. Ever since breaking up with my him, things have been so hard, but I can't act unhappy in front if them. I always have to wear this mask. I wonder how he is doing all the time, but I can't contact him otherwise my parents would see. I just want to break free from this cage of mine.

Does anyone have any advice on how to bring up the subject of moving out to over-controlling parents who cannot let go?