My husband told me the other day that when I get irritated with him about something it only makes him want to irritate me that much more. We seem to be in a no-win situation. We are very different and have different attitudes toward money and I know this is a common issue, but right now he seems to be mocking with his retorts.

This bothers me as I was hoping we could grow closer after the depression lifted and I only feel more distant. We are polar opposites when it comes to money, me being conservative and him being non-conservative. We have been married 17 years and have not been close for most of this time mainly due to the fact we are also polar opposites on child rearing dealing with a blended family. Now I feel due to money issues we have to stay together because neither of us can afford to live alone. Not a marriage made in heaven but more like roommates.

I feel like he is saying he acts like a jerk and it's my fault, however, I wonder now if I'm being to picky about things I should just let go. But during my first marriage I let myself become dependent and unable to think for myself because I yielded every time my husband gave me negative feedback.

I guess what I'm asking is how do I change my actions but still get across that I disagree without pissing him off?

I think I'm just sounding off here and trying to be objective. I intend to discuss this with my counselor as well. Just thought I would see what others had to say.

Thanks.