((( wantto )))
Look how far you have come, just by reaching out here and making friends. It will happen IRL. It takes time. But just you becoming aware of the need is major.
Do you think you could see yourself in a group therapy setting or maybe an Al-Anon meeting? I know how difficult it would be, but it would also put you in the middle of people who totally understand what you're going through.
I know it's scary. Uncomfortable. Did I say scary?
The first step is the hardest. I would go with you if I could.