If one ever finds themselves at a point where they feel the need to work things out with their T, the therapeutic value of that relationship has been long gone and no amount of discussion will bring it back. It's like breaking a vase and then deciding you want to put it back together, but it will never hold water again. The T already knows this and that the only solution is to move on.

I don´t know exactly what kind of therapy you mostly refer to but when it comes to psychodynamic therapy I´ve often read and heard that different issues/conflicts are something that can be used in therapy. For example, a conflict often shows a clients' way of acting in real life, how he or she interact with other people and this should really be something to explore further in therapy.

I´m now talking about disputes and smaller arguments, of course not yelling at the T, crossing borders and so on. To work things out, that´s how it´s done in real life and it´s also a part of therapy. In what other way could you bring complaints and issues into therapy if everything is to be held as resistance or seen as a reason for termination?