It's unfortunate that your dad and his wife acted in that way. So what if you were gay, family should still be supportive. I'm sorry that experience happened to you. I didn't know it, but a whole bunch of my customers from my former business assumed my roommate and I were gay. I had no idea. We had a bunch of them to the house one night and that's when some of them told me. But it didn't bother me, I though it was more funny. But at the same time it was cool that they thought we were gay and didn't care and still supported my business and were willing to come hang out at my house.

I'm not sure what you mean by you do things that are gay. Like "metro sexual" stuff. How you dress and things? If it's how you dress or wear your hair or whatever, that's not gay or straight. If you dress a little snazzy, that's just taking care of yourself and taking pride in your appearance. Nothing wrong with stuff like that for anyone of any sexual preference.

Lastly, I actually had a somewhat similar incident, although not as traumatizing. I'm 36, might as well say 37 because my birthday is in a few days. I've lived drug free my whole life(prescriptions excluded of course). Never even smoked pot. The other day my mom was ranting at me over the phone. Started b!tching about whether I was drinking or not. That's really none of her damn business since I'm a grown man living in my own damn house. But then she asked if I was on drugs, and specifically she said not prescriptions because I've told her I'm on antidepressants and sleep aids. But the "on drugs" question made me feel like I was 14 again or something. It was very accusatory and I didn't like it at all.

Long response I know, but bottom line, I feel for you. Don't worry about whether people think you're gay or not. It doesn't matter. Just be you and do what makes you happy.