Dear Aria,

Oh my Gosh Sweety, you are in trouble! I have very recently come to the realization that I am being abused, I was in denial for 4 years. My situation isn't as obviously volatile as yours. Your spouse is actually displaying violent outbursts toward objects ... and not only making threats to your sweet cat, but harming him/her.

What I've learned from doing so much research, is that the abuser never just stops abusing, and the abuse pretty much always gets worse.

There is something very very wrong with him Aria, and NOTHING wrong with you! Do not let him make you feel crazy or wrong, but don't prevoke him.

You need to get out of there. It is MY opinion that you are in danger. I mean, he is even denying you a very basic human need for heat. That in itself is dangerous.

Like so many have suggested to me, I think you really should call the Domestic Violence Hotline and take very strong steps to get yourself out of that house, away from him, and very possibly out of that marriage starting right now.

Don't give him the opportunity to seriously harm if not kill your poor kitty ... and worse ... YOU!

Please believe in yourself and be safe.