hi jubileee
consider this carefully because it will end up causing conflict in your marriage. things are unlikely to change. are you going to be able to live with it? he will probably always support his mother over you. consider what other options are available for mom. would she be willing to go to therapy with an ocd specialist? what about setting her up in an independent living facility where she is surrounded by people and activities. get her to go to the senior center to get involved with people and activities. welcome to psych central. you will find we have several forums where you can post about your concerns and receive feedback from other members. you will get a lot of support here. again, welcome