to have the feeling is fair, you are entitled to your feelings and to be happy, but to do it when it would cause problems financially for the family, that would be selfish. it would be different if you were doing it to take care of kids because that is a job in itself. if you are unhappy with your current job, go to school for a new career that will make you happier. your husband should do the same. being stuck in a miserable job isn't good for anybody. everybody wishes they could quit and stay home all day...but it just isn't financially feasible in todays economy. everybody has to work. that doesn't mean you have to work at a job that sucks. you keep at it until you find a job that fulfills you.