Well, for what it's worth I'm a turd. Seriously, I'm not attractive. But like everyone has said, I've been chewing on that elephant one bite at a time.

I started by looking in the mirror. I said to myself, "Okay, there are those things I hate about me so let's ignore them and look for something. You know ... if I separate my eyes from the rest of this mess ... they are very kind and soft looking. Hey, I'm going to keep that in mind."

So I decided that I like my eyes. They aren't pretty or gorgeous or whatnot, just very kind looking and I'm good with that.

So I looked again. I'm bald as an 8-ball. But I took another look, "You know, I've got the right head for this. Most people don't have the noggin for being bald, but I do."

That was two things.

So what I'm saying is disregard the big picture that you don't like. You need to take an objective look at the details that the rest of us see. Are there aspects of your personality that are just awesome? Honesty, strength? Do you have cute toes? Seriously, stop trying to look at it all in comparison to something else and take a good look at your details.

It's helped me.