Thank you everyone for the replies. I'm not even sure what to say because while I have been suspecting that my husband has become abusive I guess part of me was hoping I was wrong. Although I think most of me was hoping I could find some validation that I'm not making nothing into a big deal.

One of the last bad fights we got into I realized I am scared of my husband. Not because I think he would hurt me but because from experience I know abuse usually gets worse over time and I suppose I'm scared that eventually he would. The abusive relationship I was in before started with the guy being all charm and romance. Then he was emotionally abusive and that kept getting worse till he was sexually and physically abusive also. Of course that time I never suspected things would keep getting worse. I suppose I should at least create an escape plan incase I need it and start trying to set aside some money when I can.

As far as the cat goes: I try really hard to protect him. I don't know anyone who would take him in and I don't have anywhere else I could take him except a kill shelter. I know most adult cats just end up getting put down though because they're so hard to adopt and I don't want that for him.