Hi purplepearl, if you've been working long hours in a job you don't particularly like/that doesn't fulfill you/that doesn't make you feel good about it/yourself then it's completely understandable how being at home could seem so much more attractive.
But do you think that if you could imagine yourself in a job that does fulfill you, that does give you a feeling of achievement/purpose, that does allow you to feel you're doing something meaningful you might be less inclined to want to be a homemaker??
If that's the case could you start thinking about different jobs that might "do it for you"?? Some research maybe?? And allow your imagination to "go wild" there, could be a job you've never really considered could be one for you if you look a bit closer at what it might actually be like to do.
And I know that might well involve a pay cut.........but on that note do you think you and your husband could sit down and come up with a budget together and any cost cutting you could do if need be e.g. spread out loan and card payments a bit more, smaller car, less weekly spending, downsize on where you're living????
While I'm sure the benefits of a higher wage can be important to some people I'd say that it's much more important to be happy/fulfilled in what you're doing/in your life, even if that involves bringing in a much smaller wage.
Now just hold those thoughts for a moment, just want to check with you...........
Could some of the "unhappiness" be a little less to do with the job and more to do with how you're feeling in general........??? If general boredom or depression could be factors..........it might benefit you a lot to look at them in their own right???
For general boredom is there anything more you could be doing in your life..........a passion you could maybe find, or more activities???
And for depression........well that's a big one if it might be the case although not one you can't look at addressing or getting some help/support with.
Maybe worth having a think about????
And last thought, last because it's probably not possible , but would your job allow you to decrease your hours a bit?? As 40 hours can seem like a lot if you're not enjoying your job.........just until something better???

Alison