I think a commitment ceremony would be great. Have you talked to him about it?

I know from my experiences (been married and divorced 3 times) I don't want to get married again. I will commit myself to someone, exchange rings if they want, Make all the promises and vows that a legal ceremony would call for, but I feel legalizing it won't make it work. It takes two to make a relationship work and unless you make the effort, it will end in divorce. I don't want to experience that again. I lived by my vows, and kept my promises, to many people don't now a days.