I feel the same way and have all the degrees/certifications/whatever I need for a job -- but I'd rather be at home than trapped in an office that drives me mad-- and the thought of any office and working 40 hours a week just makes me sick to my stomach. I have been 'on sabbatical' for 2-4 years depending how you count things but am at the point where I can no longer put off the thought of a day job or some sort of income generating work.

If your husband hates his job and makes less money, being a housewife doesn't sound like it is going to fly for you both. Can you start your own business? Work part-time? Freelance? I think if you are creative, skilled, and focused, you can choose your own circumstances to an extent.