I look at many things, but I realized yesterday that I always look to my left. I mostly look at her but it depends on the topic. If I'm thinking about something I'll look her corkboard which has a map of Italy and thank you cards on it. Also when I'm thinking I'll look at a side table. If I'm sad or ashamed I'll look at my shoes or hers. I remember now that when I first started I spent one session just looking at the clock (which was behind me).